In looking to the Church for guidance, he said that he hadn't heard much about how to be a healthy, holy--and yet sexual--single person.
Married couples, after all, can live their human sexuality fully.
We have reason, we can judge what is right and wrong. When we reflect upon our sexuality within the context of all these other elements we should be able to see that it is a mistake to think of our sexuality as existing on its own. If we hope to live in a sexually mature way, our basic challenge in life is to integrate our sexual feelings with all other aspects of being human.It "is an enrichment of the whole person--body, emotions and soul" (FC, #37). We cannot and should not extract our sexuality from who we are--it's part of the whole package of being human.But let's think about the other elements of this package. To be human also involves ways of knowing and understanding which move beyond mere scientific explanations. On the one hand we know that biologically, sexuality is directed to perpetuating the species. But like human nature itself, the ability to pro-create means more than its biological outcome.Ruth," I'd like to take a shot at addressing the basic problem which this reader inadvertently expresses: defining human sexuality by its genital expression.My response to his quandary is quite simple--sexuality is part of human nature, everybody has the gift.
If I as a single woman, for example, work along side of a married man to whom I am attracted, I should thank God for the goodness of this man and respect the boundaries of his life as a married man.