Dating men who are too busy
(With my schedule I’m free for dates four times a week fitting into most other people’s schedules.) My dad worked nights and my mom worked days and they were married for over 30 years so I know it’s do-able for real, committed couples. Do firefighters, EMTs, 911 operators and ER doctors write to with this issue?
I just feel that guys these days want dating and relationships to be easy and served up on a platter. –Rachael Actually, Rachael, firefighters, EMTs, 911 operators and ER doctors would ask me about this very same issue – they just don’t have the time to write. Listen, I’m sympathetic to any busy readers, the same as I am for my busy clients.
If you’re hung up on him…that’s even more of a clue that you need to focus more on YOU, and on what YOU love, what you like, and that you need to Circular Date with tons of men so you can practice the Tools, lift your spirits, your self-esteem and your “vibe,” and have the relationship you want.
I meet guys and go on dates but they always use my work schedule as an excuse to not continue dating.
You can’t fault them for not spending time with you because they’re saving the world.
So – to answer your question – there IS no way to “pace” this. It may be a worthwhile friendship – and it may develop into something else later, you never know, but for now – it’s not more than friendship.
If you’re dating a really cool guy, and you’re learning a lot from the relationship, and you want to experiment with what a steady “boyfriend” feels like so you can be better prepared for marriage – then try it.
But don’t expect it to last – in fact, I’d be very careful about that.
However, my dating life isn’t doing so well in the long run.
This schedule actually suits me and my lifestyle perfectly.
Remember, as you read this — it doesn’t matter HOW GREAT he is.