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Dating for homeschoolers

The topic of dating and relationships came up and we started talking about my story. In my life it meant never having a crush on a guy, never allowing myself to “fall in love.” Basically, training myself to shut down a normal, healthy, functioning part of my human heart. I told her if she was to walk out of the room, leaving me and her husband in the same room, my first reaction would be one of panic.

Lately, I’ve also started facing the ways in which the teachings of “emotional purity,” (a la Josh Harris, the Ludys, and others) have damaged the part of my brain that makes healthy relationships function. You are considered damaged goods if you have fallen in love and had your heart broken. I remember watching a video in which one of the biggest names in the courtship movement bragged with obvious arrogance that he didn’t tell his wife he loved her until their wedding. We took something as simple as saying ‘I love you,’ built a straw man rule around it (‘saying I love you is defrauding’), then hung it like a trophy on our walls.” Job well done, folks. They create skewed views of relationships which lead to dysfunction. Where others see nothing wrong, I am suspicious of every look, every situation, every witty exchange. I feel ill at ease sometimes even talking to other men. I’m really good at pushing those feelings away and acting “normal.” But I am bothered by my reaction to everyday situations. Emotional purity Biblical courtship = Godly marriage. You can do everything “right” and your life can still go wrong. People who follow the courtship formula still get divorced. However, what is encouraging is that most of us have determined to stop the insanity. These teachings have deep, rotten roots, and it takes time to pull them all out. They deceive us into thinking that living by formulas is “safe.” 1 1= 2. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in my dysfunction, but it is discouraging as well.Playing games is a powerful, and non-threatening way to get kids to practice the language. Something as simple as playing 'Eye Spy' using Spanish colors can help reinforce the basics.Teaching a foreign language doesn't have to be scary.

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Nov 19, 2015. I Kissed Dating Goodbye was pivotal literature in the lives of any church folk, but if you were homeschooled, it was practically required reading. Most homeschoolers weren't even allowed to be alone in a room with a person of opposite gender let alone have a boyfriend or girlfriend. So, rather than having a. 
01-Dec-2018 18:13
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Oct 17, 2015. I'm sitting here on the computer during my kid's weekend home.because she's watching a movie with her boyfriend in the basement. LOL. and I don't think I'm invited to join them Got me thinking about dating and homeschool. For those of ya'll who are homeschooling highschool.your kids date? 
01-Dec-2018 18:17
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Mar 9, 2015. HA note The following is reprinted with permission from Lana Hobbs' blog Lana Hobbs the Brave. It was originally published on January 21, 2015. Part One No Dating. What follows is mostly just story, with very little commentary. All memories are mine, aided a little by Luke for parts he was there for. 
01-Dec-2018 18:22
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