Bible study on christian dating
I am not implying that a man has to be a prude, but he is to be a protector.If a man is addicted to pornography, he is already committing adultery/fornication in his heart, even before you tie the knot.If you have just spotted some serious red flags in your dating relationship, seek counsel from wise, confidential people in your church community.But remember, the decision is ultimately up to you.However, a husband is responsible to lead his wife in sanctification, as this verse explains with the imagery of Christ and His bride.If a man cannot do that, he is not ready to be a husband.Neither of your bodies belong to each other until you say “I do,” (1 Corinthians 7:4), so it is wrong for a man to treat a woman as if he has free reign with her body before marriage.I think it is safe to ask this question: if a man is not honorable and pure before marriage, why would he be so afterward? However, if he could not keep his hands to himself before marriage, how do you know he will keep them to just you after marriage?
If he is always broaching conversations about sex, he is not doing a good job of helping you to protect your mind against lust before marriage.Does he spew his anger all over everyone, including you? Proverbs -25 says, “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.” If you are not to make friendships with angry people, why would you covenant yourself to someone who fits this description? If he would more readily spend a day on the lake than helping someone in need, this indicates where his heart lies.Proverbs makes it clear that you will only be ensnared. You may actually become an enabler who receives the brunt of his anger. Those little childlike qualities may seem really cute right now, but it will grow old (and aggravating) shortly into marriage. If a man is not responsible with his time, money, and work, why would he be responsible in his future family life? You should also consider your date’s relationships with other people.You have to be married to this person till death do you part, and you can choose whether your marriage will help you to grow in serving another believer, or will pull you down and bring you much sorrow.Choose wisely, and trust God’s sovereignty if that man has not come along yet.
Spouse abuse by an angry man does not usually randomly begin fifteen years into a marriage. Abuse is not only physical- it can also be emotional. If he is more concerned with worldly pleasure than pleasing God in being an honorable and responsible man, this is not the kind of man who will rightly point his family toward Christ-likeness. The Bible has a name for the guy who has the Peter-Pan syndrome: he is called “the sluggard.” Proverbs mentions him several times, including in Proverbs 6:9-11, which states, “How long will you lie there, O sluggard? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.” What is this man’s work ethic? Is he unhealthily dependent on his friends or family?